DEALING WITH THE AFTERMATHS OF HAVING A BABY, POSTPARTUM INSTABILITY, POSTPARTUM MENTAL INSTABILITY, HOW TO DEAL WITH POSTPARTUM SYMPTOMS
One of the most beautiful moments in one's life is the birth of a baby. The innocence of it's life, the unknowing, the obliviousness to the world's hard intentions and on some it's sheer evilness. A child reminds us of the once purest of purest beauties that this world could possibly hold. Always a blissful moment for the child who receives all the love that it could possibly bear, all the needful and needless things that it can endure. The "oohs" the "aahs" that surround the baby almost every second of the day, as the mother who sat there for hours and hours pushing this delight from her loins and in the end is barely acknowledged for carrying and nurturing this wonderful soul that has now come to be. This could most definitely be the first signs of postpartum depression or that is which is ecognized as such.
A woman is filled with emotional needs, and you need a map plus a couple of clues to get to those needs, because often times, as women, we just expect people to get it. And that, ladies and gentlemen , is not how it works. These are guessing games, and the average person (especially the male) does not get it unless it is verbally told to him.
Postpartum symptoms or depression are often ignored by the mother and surrounding people (especially if the person already exhibited depressed symptoms beforehand). Here are some signs for postpartum depression: http://www.webmd.com/depression/postpartum-depression/postpartum-depression-symptoms
· Depressed mood-tearfulness, hopelessness, and feeling empty inside, with or without severe anxiety.
· Loss of pleasure in either all or almost all of your daily activities.
· Appetite and weight change-usually a drop in appetite and weight but sometimes the opposite.
· Sleep problems-usually trouble with sleeping, even when your baby is sleeping.
· Noticeable change in how you walk and talk-usually restlessness, but sometimes sluggishness.
· Extreme fatigue or loss of energy.
· Feelings of worthlessness or guilt, with no reasonable cause.
· Difficulty concentrating and making decisions.
· Thoughts about death or suicide. Some women with PPD have fleeting, frightening thoughts of harming their babies. These thoughts tend to be fearful thoughts, rather than urges to harm.
On that note, the last one being death or suicide, I'd like to take a moment to say that I have known women who were ready to flee and just up and leave their babies because the pressures of motherhood and seemingly abandonment by the ones they trusted in the most was too overwhelming. I'm not saying I support it. I'm saying that I understand the overwhelming feeling that comes with becoming a new mother or a mother that's brand new from so many years of waiting to try again. From a Christian's perspective it is constantly, without cease, to stay in prayer. Also stay in communication with those that play just as large of a role in the parenting as you do. Help them to understand all the changes mentally and physically that you are going through, and if you want to bring out the big gun "you DID NOT make this beautiful creation all on your own, and that they owe you just as much time and effort as you are putting in."
Also as a bonus, I will throw in postpartum psychosis: I through this one in because I do suffer from bipolar disorder and there are plenty of you who do as well.
Postpartum psychosis. This severe condition is most likely to affect women with bipolar disorder or a history of postpartum psychosis. Symptoms, which usually develop during the first 3 postpartum weeks (as soon as 1 to 2 days after childbirth), include:1, 3
· Feeling removed from your baby, other people, and your surroundings (depersonalization).
· Disturbed sleep, even when your baby is sleeping.
· Extremely confused and disorganized thinking, increasing your risk of harming yourself, your baby, or another person.
· Drastically changing moods and bizarre behavior.
· Extreme agitation or restlessness.
· Unusual hallucinations, often involving sight, smell, hearing, or touch.
· Delusional thinking that isn't based in reality.
These are some things that should be heavily weighed and considered. Do not deny yourself help if it is needed, especially because of pride. Allow someone, if only one to come in, and help you through the most difficult time seemingly of your life.
Best wishes and God BlesS